Friends are so very important to women of all ages. (This is something that men can never understand – my advice is to never try. I’m sure it’s a DNA thing!) The support they give when we are so very overwhelmed with our lives and loves is sometimes the only thing that keeps us sane. We treasure our friends and will do anything for them.
The problem is that sometimes friendships go bad.
I am in the middle of such a time. It’s so very difficult because this friendship is declining at a slow pace. It’s not a quick and easy death, but very slow and painful. I am hoping that we may be able to salvage something from it.
I have loved this woman for so very long. We have known each other for years and been involved in each others lives through the good and the bad. We have watched each others kids grow and mature, and dealt with the pain of divorces and family traumas. She is a dear sweet person without whom I don’t know how I would have got through the past few years. But she is also a drain on me emotionally and financially. And I just can’t do it anymore. She understands and is trying to move on and break away….and, frankly, she’s doing a pretty good job so far.
Can she sustain it? Who knows! But at least she’s giving it a good try. And that in itself is helping to keep our friendship chugging along. She has physically moved away from me, she is making great efforts to repay me what she owes me, she is growing up – and that is also helping. I guess “absence does make the heart grow fonder”! And, in this case, it may indeed save a wonderful friendship.
