Absolutely there is life and love after the age of 40. Granted, the life is easier to find than the love, but I’m assured by the successful lives and relationships that are enjoyed by so many of my friends that love DOES exist. So I guess I’ll just keep looking.
In the meantime, I decided that I’d had enough of being angry about my divorce, infuriated by my lack of a job and lousy finances, and being scared each and every day of what was going to happen next. It wasn’t easy, but I’ve dedicated myself to changing my mindset and my attitudes. Look out world, here I come.
One of the first steps I took was to join a MeetUp group in my local San Diego area. Actually, I joined a number of groups finally whittling down to just 2. I had no idea that so many different groups of people were meeting all around me. That action step alone has given a boost to my spirits and my energy. In fact, I’ve just decided to join a hiking group and get my sad “old” body back into some kind of shape.
That language (“sad and old”) is something I’m still working on changing – it’s a bad habit so take my advice and turn that one around quick smart. Use words like, “maturing” or even “eager to change” instead and take note of how that positive language improves your mood. Oh, and remember to smile – just that physical action sends out the positive chemicals into your system.
Anyway, I decided to set up this website because there are just so many women like me out there. We can find each other without any problem at a bar or a party, or even walking down the street. And I thought it would be a great idea to find a way to spread all the wonderful advice that am given. And I’m hoping that I’ll get even more in return that I can then pass onto others.
Women are indeed communal creatures. We understand the importance of the family and community and we work hard to hold them together. When I divorced, as much as I was glad to get out of the relationship, I missed the sense of family and found myself lost. I’m still finding my way….I’m not sure to where, but I’m feeling more self assured and ready to tackle whatever comes.
I don’t need to be afraid of life and love after the age of 40. And that’s worth getting out of bed each and every day.
